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Part 4

2010-03-19T22:27:00.000-07:00

Living in a motor home with two small children is quite an experience, but not as bad as you might think. Zachary was too big to nap by then and there was no way to keep him quiet enough in that small space for Katie to nap, so she simply had to stop napping before she was even two years old. We made it into a home as much as we could. We had a small patio and we put all of the toys on it and made a make-shift fence around it. We spread out a big rug on the patio and put a T.V. in the outside compartments so that we had an outdoor living room. It really wasn't so terrible, and Joe and I always seemed to do our best together when we were in the worst situations. The R.V. Park had a pool, so while Joe was at work during the day, the kids and I spent all day swimming. Both my kids learned how to swim in that pool. All of the snowbirds staying at the R.V. Park loved Zach and Katie and we would stop and chat with them while we rode bikes around the parking lot. The worst thing about living in the motor home was the heat. Hemet reaches 110 degrees during the summer and it was impossible to keep our home cool. When we weren't swimming, we would spend time at Chucke Cheeses just to be in an air conditioned building. We also spent a lot of time over at my grandparents which was only about 10 minutes away. I always considered that a blessing. One night, while the kids were sleeping, Joe and I were watching T.V. outside in the living room, when we saw a mouse pop it's head out around the T.V. I freaked out, but Joe wouldn't do anything about it, so we saw our little mouse often. After we made it through six months of camping, we decided to move back to Vegas where it was cheaper to live and stay with Joes mom, who I didn't know well, until we could figure everything out. We had packed everything up and were all set to go, but the motor home wouldn't start. When Joe opened the hood to see what the problem was, we found our little mouse friends home. There was a huge nest in there and a whole lot of work to do to get rid of it, replace chewed on wires, and get going. It took us another week to get out of there and a whole lot of money, but we were on the road, back to Vegas. Joe got a job quickly at a rock plant and we moved into Joes moms house, all 4 of us in one room. Living with Joes mom wasn't too bad. His older brother James and his younger brother Nick also lived there, and it was interesting to listen to Joes family tell stories and argue. It really gave me insight into why Joe was who he was. His whole family was a bunch of loony bins! But it was quite entertaining for a time. One thing I love about Las Vegas is the parks. They are amazing and the kids and I would spend a good portion of the day at the park. The other thing I love about Vegas is Canyon Ridge Christian Church. I had finally found a really great church home and they had a small group called married, but spiritually single, where I found a wonderful group of women who knew exactly what I was going through. Thank goodness for these supportive women whom I leaned on for the next 5 years.

10 Years Part 3

2010-03-14T10:57:00.000-07:00

After 2 weeks at an RV resort and a million different ideas on what kind of business to open, Joe realized that we couldn't do anything without an address. Thank goodness! We paid 6 months rent up front in cash for a decent little house in Vegas. Unfortunately, when we left Hesperia, Joe hadn't wanted to move furniture so he sold it all and we had to buy all new stuff. Money was running out fast. Joe decided on a carpet cleaning business, but he never did anything to get it going. He was home all day everyday and we actually had a really great time together for the most part. Until the money ran out. We had only been in Vegas for about 4 months when I explained to Joe that we were almost out of cash. He was furious and found a way to blame me for ruining his life and his dream of opening a business. I left Joe once for a few days, and I think it may have been during this time. Everything always happened so fast with us, that it gets all mixed up in my brain. Somehow he convinced me to come back and that we would work it out. He would get a job even though it would make him miserable if that's what it would take. I went back to Vegas and shortly there after, Joe got a job in San Diego. We still had a couple more months of prepaid rent on our house in Vegas and Zach was in preschool, so Joe took the motor home to his new job and left us in Vegas. I think we really despised each other during this time. He would come home to visit every couple of weeks and we would hardly talk. And we visited him a few times in the motor home down by the beach. I stopped doing that however because it was too embarrassing to be parked next to the other campers who could hear him scream at me about how selfish I was. While Joe was living in the motor home, he started parking near the boarder and walking across to Mexico every night after work. He would call me and tell me stories about the fun he was having and even though he was spending a boat load of money, I didn't care because his spirits seemed to be lifted. Our 6 month sentence in Vegas was up, and the kids and I camped with Joe for a few weeks until we found a 3 bedroom apartment in Fallbrook to rent. I loved living in Fallbrook. We had great neighbors and I made some friends. Joe continued to spend time in Mexico and I even went with him once. It was a blast! Joe seemed to be settled into his job and going to the beach and the park with my kids and friends was so nice. I got involved in a church and everything was going O.K. except that we never had any money. Even though Joes jaunts to Mexico seemed to be the reason for our lack of funds, and our payment on the motor home, which was now just sitting uselessly, I was scared to tell Joe how tight money was. I started getting payday loans and had this crazy system of floating checks and getting us by paycheck to paycheck. But Joe and I were doing so well, I just couldn't tell him how bad it was and face his wrath, so I kept all of the weight on my own shoulders. One day Joe came home from Mexico and gave me a check that he said his friend down there had asked him to cash for him as a favor. Joe asked me to go to the bank and do it while he was at work. And so I took the kids to the bank and tried to cash the check. As it turned out, the check was stolen, and the bank kept it and told me that if I didn't have the kids, they would have had me arrested. I was so scared. I didn't know what Joe had gotten me into. I called Joe and he came home immediately. He swore up and down that he had no idea what was going on and he was just as scared as I was. Nothing ever came of it thank goodness, but it did give me the chance to use his guilt for almost getting me arrested to forbid him from ever going to Mexico again. I also had the chance to talk to him about our financial situation without him flying off the handle at me. Things settled down, but money was still tight. Our 6 month lease in Fallbrook was almost up and we decided together that Joe would try to get his union job back. He quit his job in San Diego and he went back to the same company he had been working for while we were in Hesperia. We decided that we would save money and live in the motor home for a while. Zach was 3 and Katie was almost 2. We put everything in storage and parked our motor home in Hemet, Ca where we would spend the next 6 months. And so, another year had passed and we were a family of 4 living in a 32 foot motor home.

10 Years Part 2

2010-03-14T09:55:00.000-07:00

Living with my Mom and Dad was O.K. at first. Joe got a job with a small company in Irwindale running equipment, but they didn't offer health insurance and I found out I was pregnant with Katie. Once Joe got a job we started house shopping again and looked to the high desert once again. It took us a while to find what we were looking for, but we eventually did and we made a much better decision in price and had a really decent mortgage. We were at my parents for 6 months though and during this time, Joe decided that he didn't like my Dad. My parents were very gracious and generous to us, so I'll never quite figure out why he disliked my Dad so much, but he did. He would come home from work, not say a word to anyone, and go in our room with the door shut. It was the first of many times that he would embarrass me by his lack of common decency and it was the beginning of my apologies for his behavior. Nobody understood it, least of all me. One night Joe and I went out to dinner. I brought up his attitude and he explained that he didn't agree with my families political view and said that we were all a bunch of hypocrites and it was people like us that made him decide that he hated Christians and would never step foot in a church again. I had a good cry right there in the restaurant and told him that God and church and Christian relationships and my parents were all very important to me and to the way I wanted to raise our kids. He had know how I felt about this from the moment we met, and I couldn't understand how he could say such things, or really where he was coming from. The best explanation that he could give me was that he would just never fit in with those people. I could raise the kids to believe in God, he claimed to believe too, that he had Jesus in his heart, but I was not to ask or expect him to go to church anymore. The day we left my parents to move into our house, Joe left without a goodbye or a thanks to my parents. My Dad was deeply hurt, but what could I say as I didn't understand it myself. Joe got a job with the union and left his small company. Union pay was amazing and the benefits were outstanding. Our mortgage was affordable, overtime was plentiful and it was by fr our best year financially. Katie was born a few weeks after we had moved into our house and although I had made the adjustment to stay at home mom, 2 kids is twice as hard. Joe was working 12 hour days and hiss boss often asked him to go out after work. He was almost never home and I was left alone with my 19month old and infant. I got myself involved in a church and did my best to be happy. One night I had to run out to the store and I convinced Joe to let me go alone and leave the kids with him. When I got home Katie was in our room crying with the door shut. I asked Joe, "don't you hear Katie crying, why did you close her in there?" For the second time he reminded me, I don't do babies. She wouldn't shut up, so I stuck her in there. He was not asked to babysit again. Mean while, Joe had sold the sand rail for a speed boat that sat in the garage since we had two tiny kids, too little for use of a boat. We fought a lot that year although for the life of me I can't remember what we were fighting about. I can see clear as day Joe getting so angry that he threw an entire lasagna across the room at the wall, but I have no idea why. The only thing that we really had going for us at that time was our kids and Joes job. Joe decided to sell the boat and buy a motor home to stay in at the property where he worked so he wouldn't have to commute everyday. Unfortunately, the motor home required payments and I said no. The motor home showed up at the house anyway. We had this motor home for about a month when Joe quit his job. He told me that he hated his career and that we were going to sell the house, which had increased greatly in value in the one year that we owned it, take the motor home to Vegas and use the money to open a business. I sobbed and fought and sobbed some more. He told me that he was doing this weather I liked it or not and I could either come with him, or leave. I was so scared. I had a two year old and a 10 month old and I never wanted a life for them with divorced parents, so I went. We sold the house and made 30,000 dollars. We got in the motor home and drove to Vegas with no plan.

10 Years Part 1

2010-03-13T22:20:00.000-08:00

In the first year that I was married, so much happened so fast. After the wedding, I remember how Joe would tell me how unimportant my job was compared to his. I know that's not really a good way to start a story, but it's kind of important to know that right from the beginning he made me feel small. I found out I was pregnant in the first two months of our marriage and I think we both felt really happy and excited. Joe was still pretending at this time to be a Christian. We went to church and even to Bible study together. This too will be significant later on in the story. Joe quit his job while I was pregnant and we were without insurance for a short portion of my first pregnancy. Luckily, he got another job at a dump running heavy equipment shortly there after. We decided to buy a house and started looking. We could only afford a house in the high desert and it would be about a 45 minute commute both ways for Joe each day to work. I remember when we found the house that we both loved, but thinking it was a little more than we had originally talked about. We stood in the house, held hands and prayed. We asked God to give us discernment on the decision to buy. We both felt peace about it and decided to purchase. Joe and I didn't have any savings to furnish this house, but I did have a trust fund from my Grandfather, originally intended for my education, and we used that to buy new furniture. I didn't really like what we picked, but Joe convinced me, and after we had purchased everything we needed, Joe used the rest to buy a sand rail even though we couldn't afford tires or a trailer for it, and we had an infant on the way.
While I was pregnant, Joe told me that he didn't do babies. He was great with older kids, but he didn't do babies, and since we had decided that I would quit my "meaningless" job and be a stay at home mom, he really only needed to work, and I would deal with the baby. Zach was such a blessing! He was just the cutest little thing and pretty good for the most part. But I was a new mommy, all alone in a big house all day, and it was an adjustment for me. It was hard. I was tired. I needed a little help sometimes. I remember one night when Joe got home from work, I was so tired and I asked Joe to feed the baby so I could do the dishes and go to bed. I started to cry purely out of exhaustion. Joe continued up the stairs and when he got to the top, he started yelling at me to stop crying. He had warned me that he didn't do babies, and he worked and it was my job to feed the baby. I sat at the bottom of the stairs, holding Zach and crying. I didn't ask him to do anything for a long time after that. I just sucked it up and kept going. Mean while, the sand rail sat tin the garage, never used, not even once. Joe and I visited a few churches in Lancaster, but Joe didn't feel comfortable with any of them, so we stopped going to Church.
Not everything was bad all the time that year. We had some laughs. We took Zach on walks together in the stroller. Joe bought me my china for my birthday and he let me have my family for Thanksgiving. Zachary was such a joy to me, we had our house. It would all get better right?
Joe quit his job at the dump less than a year into it. We couldn't afford our mortgage anymore. We moved Joes brother James in to help us out, but it only created more to fight about and almost exactly one year from the day we purchased our house, we put it up for sale. We had to move in with my Mom and Dad till we could figure something else out.

2010

2009-12-31T01:16:00.000-08:00

Last year my prayer for the New year was for a crisis free 2009. That didn't work out too well for me, so this year my prayer for 2010 will just be to get me through each day, one day at a time.

Random act of kindness

2009-10-24T17:19:00.000-07:00

Today I went to Starbucks like I do every morning before work. I go through the drive through and I always order a grande mocha. Today when I got to the window, the barista told me that the lady in the car before me had paid for my drink today.
"What?" I said
"Why?"
"She just wanted to do something nice" Said the barista.

The lady was already half way down the street. Gone.
My jaw just dropped and I couldn't stop saying how nice that was. My eyes filled up with tears and then I couldn't stop smiling! I've had family and friends do special and kind thing for me before, even out of the blue, but I have never had a stranger bestow upon me a random act of kindness. It was truly amazing and I tell you, it made my whole day. I smiled more today. I was kinder to others today. I laughed more today.
Was it just a 4 dollar coffee, yeah, but it was so much more.

What if

2009-09-17T00:42:00.000-07:00

Over the past 10 years my life has had a few highs and many extreme lows. Through it all I felt like God was teaching me something, whether it be strength or faith or love or what not. I have always tried to take everything that has been handed to me with a smile and turn it into a learning experience or a better understanding of what it is to have faith in God.
This year, instead of a New Years resolution I started praying daily for a crisis free 2009. Almost immediatly Joe and I started to deterierate even more than normal and shortly there after Joe injured his back, and shortly there after I found out that so much of our relationship had been a lie, and shortly there after I couldn't take any more and I left, and shortly there after I found myself at age 30 at my parents house, not sure what was worse, and shortly there after my sister died.
So what if this time I can't smile. What if this time I don't have enough faith or maybe even any. What if this time I want to scream at God and say Why do you hate me so much. What if this time I can't get down on my knees and I just turn around and walk away instead. What if this time I can't praise Him through my storm. What if this time all I can see is how I can never catch a break and I just get screwed time and time again and I just say Fuck it all.
I've been praying for 10 years that God would bring me a friend and instead I loose my sister who is also friend, my only friend, my best friend. I can't see through all of this fog this time. The road map is all fuzzy and I don't know where to go. I know in my head who can lead me, but I don't think my heart wants to trust anymore.
Maybe I never had the faith that I thought I did. Maybe I was lying to myself and to God because when the going got tough and wouldn't let up, I gave up. I give up. I can't see the good in it all. I can't see You in it all. I can't be strong anymore. I just don't want to be strong anymore.

Keep moving forward

2009-08-13T22:55:00.000-07:00

I took a little break from blogging while my life fell apart. Now, I'm trying to pull myself up by my boot-straps and keep moving forward. The last year has been one of the hardest of my life, and although I feel sadness for the chapters that are closing, I also feel a great relief to finally say goodbye. I am so blessed to have such huge support from my family and friends and am thankful that even though I am now on my own, I'm really not. My goal is to work on my body, mind and spirit this year and I know that writing will be a big part of that. It has always been the best way for me to express how I am feeling, and although I am not very good at it, it helps me work through my emotions, what I want to say to others, and my conversations with God.

I am truly thankful for all of those who are praying for Zach, Katie and myself and ask also that you will pray for Joe as he continues to self destruct and spiral to dangerous places.

Matthew 11:28-30
Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.
Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.
For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.

Circus guilt

2009-03-27T11:38:00.000-07:00

This week I took my kids to the Shrine Circus. It was my first time at the circus and it was probably the coolest thing that I have done in a long time. It was fun just to watch the amazement on the faces of my children. Katie even got to ride on an elephant. It was truly a spectacular show.
When I got home, I was so impressed with the show that I went on Face book to become a fan of the Shrine Circus. When I pressed search, what I got were several, if not many, protests against the circus because of the treatment of animals by the circus, particularly the elephants. I read a fiction novel a few years ago, based on a true story, called Water for Elephants and I actually knew going into the circus that the animals in the show are often abused, and yet, I still went and I even had a great time.
Now I'm feeling guilty. I watched about 5 YouTube videos when I got home of these poor elephants being hit with bull hooks. It's wrong and I shouldn't have been supporting the circus to begin with. This particular circus had 2 elephants, 2 black bears, and a bunch of poodles, all of which are possibly being miss treated.
It is disappointing though, because my kids and I really did have a good time. We really were amazed. It was a great experience. Unfortunately, I don't think we'll be going again.

Dodging potholes

2009-03-10T09:09:00.000-07:00

The roads in Ely are bad on a good day. Since all of the snow that we've had this year, they have become even worse to drive on. The pot holes are huge and dodging them is impossible. Yesterday as I was taking Katie to school I witnessed the city filling in some of the potholes with sand. Even I know better than that. Filling a pot hole with sand might make it seem better for a week or two, but it's not going to fix the problem. I know that Ely gets some of the money from the states gaming, so why I am having to drive on the wrong side of the road to avoid pot holes, and why is the city filling them in with sand instead of asphalt? I guess I'll have to take it up with the city. Not my cup of tea, but I'm really irritated.

The stuff that is my life

2009-03-09T10:19:00.000-07:00

So here's what's been going on with me.

The kids have been sick FOREVER. I think between the two of them, it's been a month now.

I took a short trip to California to visit my Parents. It was wonderful. I had really missed them. Plus they took me out to Chili's and Sushi. YUM! Can't beat that.

Joe decided against the prison job and didn't even show up for the physical. I'm not really sure how I feel about that choice, but hey, what can I really do. Fortunately, the mine is still open and copper prices have risen a wee bit in the last month. Fingers crossed, he'll keep that job.

I took a tour at the local Head Start. They just received a huge grant and are planning on hiring in the near future. It would be perfect for me since they run on the same schedule as the kids. My neighbor is on the board there, so I'm pretty sure I have a good chance at a job.

The car that we got for Joe a few months ago won't start. We've now put 4 different parts in, thinking that each would fix the problem. Not so much. Bummer. We have a friend coming over some time this week to help us figure it out and I'm hoping we can get it fixed on Joes week off so that I don't have to go back to walking everywhere. We'll see.

I've been saving up for a trip to Disneyland in May. My birthday and Katies are only 2 days apart and this is how we will celebrate. I can't wait! My Mom and Dad and possibly my sister are going to join us and it's going to be a great time.

Joes band Iokane laid down their first track on their demo C.D. and I'm feeling a little proud. I think they are really good.

The snow here just won't stop and although it's not as bad as I thought it was going to be, I'm pretty much over it and ready for some warmth, which I have been told I won't get until June. Seriously? URG!

4 day school week

2009-02-20T08:13:00.000-08:00

Yesterday while I was standing outside waiting for my kids to come out of school, the principle came out and we had a little chat. He wanted to know my opinion on a 4 day week for school. Nevada, as many states are going through some major budget cuts and they are trying to figure out the best way to deal with these cuts. He explained to me that by switching to a 4 day school week, that they would be able to save 2 teachers spots with the money that they would save on transportation and electricity and such.

I'm not really sure how I feel about it. For one thing, a 4 day week would add 75 minutes to each school day. I know that for Zachary, he is already tired by the end of a school day, and adding an extra hour at the end of the day, might not be the best thing for him. Not only that, but it seems like we are already cramming a lot in after school between homework and sports and dinner and getting ready for bed.

The principle also told me that they would be teaming up with the Magic Carpet Day Care for parents that work Monday through Friday. parents would still be able to drop their kids off at school on Fridays, but it would be day care, not school. It seems like such a waste for the kids that will have to do that. I know that this aspect really isn't the schools problem, but I'm not convinced that it's a good idea. The reality is that Parents do have to work Monday through Friday and now on Fridays they won't be learning or spending time with their families. Like I said. What a waste.

I guess, now that I am really sitting down to think about it, I don't like the idea at all! However, the alternative is that people loose jobs, and class sizes get bigger. Maybe there just isn't a good solution.

My husband is heading for prison

2009-02-16T08:18:00.000-08:00

We wanted to be prepared for the rumors that the mine that Joe works for is going to shut down or lay off soon, so a few months ago, Joe applied at the prison here in Ely. We didn't hear anything until a few days ago when we got an e-mail saying that his application had be reviewed and accepted and they would send him via mail a date for a physical test and interview. He has this test on the 25th and an interview to follow if he passes the physical part.

If I remember correctly, he has to run a mile in 17 min. and do some timed push-ups and sit-ups. We are headed to the local football field on Tuesday for a little bit of training, and just to see if he can do it. It should be interesting to say the least. I've never seen Joe run! I know they do make it fairly easy though, and I'm sure he can do it.

He is not allowed to wear any blue to this interview, which I know is gang related but I find highly amusing since he won't be around any prisoners that day.

We are both just a little bit excited about the whole thing. For one thing it will be a change of pace for Joe, and he needs that. And for another thing, once he has some experience we could put in for a transfer and head back to Vegas or California. It's really a great opportunity during this economic crisis since it is one of the more stable jobs out there, unlike his current occupation which has been one of the hardest hit industries.

In response to: A brief word on discipleship vs. legalism

2009-02-11T14:49:00.000-08:00

I fully and completely agree that as followers of Christ, we are called into a lifetime of discipleship, of walking in the way with Jesus, seeking righteousness, holiness, Christ-likeness throughout our lifetime.

However, as far as discipleship goes I do not think that you can disciple to every person in the same way, which may be the problem with legalism.

When I used the example of the beach in response to this blog, it was a generalization of many things that Christians could see as causing another to stumble and to me seemed just as outrageous as the Superbowl discussion. (Not that I think that the discussion it's self was outrageous)

I think that if any one person feels like an event such as the Superbowl is not honoring to Christ, than he/she should absolutely not partake in the festivities. You should most certainly do what you believe God wants you to do in your life.

A little background: I am married, but spiritually single. In my life I am continually made fun of by my own husband for my beliefs and often what I take a stand on. One of the nicknames that Joe has given me is Flanders. (The Jesus freak on The Simpsons) I have been told that I am brainwashing my children simply because I take them to church and celebrate advent and things like that. I was not allowed to enroll my children in a Christian pre-school. In my situation, I have learned to pick my battles carefully while maintaining my core values and beliefs. Only God knows my struggles in this everyday situation and only those whom are in the same situation as I am can truly understand.

In my case, it would be more of a discipleship for me to sit down and enjoy the game despite whatever negativity there may be, than to refuse to watch it and have my husband look at me like a crazy person and think to himself that he doesn't want any part of my God that will not even allow me to watch a football game.

I guess my point is simply that you do what you believe God wants you to do. If you believe that God cannot use the Superbowl as a time of discipleship in your life, than by all means skip it! But if you can see how God could use even the Superbowl as a time to witness, even if it is just through a gentle and quiet spirit, than He will give you that opportunity. I don't think that this is a subject that you can generalize for all Christians. I have a tendency to look at things how Joe would see them, and spend my time doing studies on how to be the happy wife of an unsaved husband. So I guess my opinions are often from this perspective and the will of God through prayer in my own life and experience, which I am fully aware is different from many.

For those that are using Superbowl Sunday to help the homeless, that is an amazing ministry and I am glad that God is using those women in that ministry. One of my major ministries is Joe, and although it may not seem as important to some, I believe that I can be the hands and feet of Jesus in my own home.

And on a personal note to Dan. The George Knight comment was meant to be light hearted and funny. I hope you didn't take me seriously.

United Methodists

2009-02-09T09:33:00.001-08:00

I've been attending the United Methodist Church in Ely. This past Sunday, the pastor decided to do a healing service where anyone that needed healing of any kind could come to the front of the church and have the pastor lay hands on them and pray for them. I've been through this myself more than once and it has always been an extremely personal, emotional and spiritual experience. However, in the United Methodist Church they do not pray from their hearts and the whole thing seemed a little weird. I did not participate in this service, and I am not trying to tell you how the ones who did felt. The pastor prayed the same prayer, which she read from a sheet of paper, for every person. I know that this is just how the Methodists do things since all of our prayers throughout any service are printed in the bulletin, but it's not something that I think that I will ever get used to. To me, Christianity is about having a personal relationship with God. He doesn't expect everything to be scripted and allows you to share your whole heart. The Methodists, take the personal out of your relationship with God.
I am certainly glad that I have a church to go to in Ely and that my kids are going to Sunday school. I just don't understand the ways of the Methodists.

Yuck!

2009-02-04T10:45:00.000-08:00

Yesterday Joe came home very proud with this story:

At the mine, there aren't any bathrooms anywhere near where we are working, so sometimes we have to poop in a bucket. This was one of those days. "that's disgusting" I said. "And then what do you do with the bucket?" I asked foolishly. I put a bag in the bucket before hand, and then when I was done, I took the bag and threw it down one of the blast holes so that when they blast, my poop will fly into the air!

Seriously. What is wrong with boys.

Drugs are saving Joes job!

2009-01-27T16:50:00.000-08:00

The mine started drug testing every crew last week. Now there's a way to eliminate employees without having to lay anyone off! Especially here in Ely. They should be able to get rid of at least 1/4 of the labor out there since we live in the Meth capital of the world! Tee-hee! Joes job is safe for now!

Spot light on Katie

2009-01-26T09:10:00.000-08:00

My 5 year old daughter brings me such joy everyday. Her creativity amazes me. Her favorite thing in the whole world is doing art, and when she brings me her latest creation, I am almost always in awe that she made it. I know that every mother thinks that the things that her children make are the best, and maybe I'm crazy, but this girl is going to grow up to do something artsy. She makes her own paper dolls, engineers bridges for her ponies to cross out of Knex, makes Kites that can actually fly, built a farris wheel for her pollypockets to ride in, and the list goes on. She is such a blessing in my life, and I love to just watch her go.

School

2009-01-23T16:52:00.000-08:00

In the fall, I will have both of my children in school all day. I have been a stay at home mom since my son was born almost 8 years ago, but the time is coming for me to either get a job, go back to school, or both. Today I spent a bunch of time researching scholarships for school since I cannot afford school without a second income. From what I read, it's pretty tough to get a scholarship if you are not coming directly from high school, or a returning student. Since I will be neither of those, I'm not sure if I can pull it off. I do know that I don't want to end up cleaning hotel rooms or becoming a waitress! I'm crossing my fingers that I can figure it all out before the fall semester begins.

The goings on

2009-01-20T12:27:00.000-08:00

As many people in my life know, I've been having trouble with the wireless Internet that I have through alltel. Our service has been so slow, that going on the Internet has been frustrating. It seems to be going better today, so I thought I'd sit down and write a blog. This one is for my mom, as she told me she has been waiting for me to post something, even though, she already knows all about my life! This one is just the goings on.

-Joe completed his drill training at the mine. He can now add this to his resume and that is a good thing. He is currently drilling on his own and enjoying it. As my Ground (Grandpa) said, as long as they don't let him handle the dynamite, we'll ll be O.K. LOL!

-Currently, the mine is still running and they have not started layoffs. At the moment they have a lot of skilled individuals shoveling snow by hand to cut costs and keep everyone working. I think that shows that they really are concerned about the employees since we know that they could operate with 40 percent of the labor that they have.

-Last week, Joe went to the Doctor and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Although this will be a long term battle for both of us, and our children, I am thrilled that Joe took the step to go to the Doctor and get proper medication. I know that we will all be much happier people.

-The holidays were FABULOUS!!! My parents, sister, and niece came to Ely for Christmas and we had a blast! The kids enjoyed playing in the snow with Nana and Papa, we got to ride on the Polar Express and Christmas day was such fun. My mom and I even had a good time going to the Laundromat about 4 times! It was nice to be with them and I am missing them already

-We got a second car!!! After about 6 months of me walking everywhere while Joe had the car at work, we finally got ourselves an 88 Dodge Ram Charger. It is perfect for Joe to take to and from work and even has 4x4 for the snow. I feel truly blessed!

-Zachary has his first loose tooth at the age of 71/2 and he is very excited. It's coming out any day now.

-Katie read me her first book last week and I am trying to go overboard on the encouragement as she tells me daily that she hates school.

I am looking forward to 2009 and praying that it will be crisis free, as I have not experienced a quiet year in a long time.

When the magic fades

2008-12-14T08:36:00.000-08:00

When I was in third grade, My fingure was smashed in a minivan door and I had to get stictches. While my mom and I were waiting for the doctor, I asked her if Santa was real. She said, "well, what do you think?" and I told her I didn't think he was. She revealed the truth to me then and that was the end of the magic of Santa for me.

Christmas was always magical at our house, even after I found out that Santa wasn't real. My Mom did such an amazing job of making sure that we remembered the true meaning of Christmas that even after the magic of Santa was gone, the miracle of Jesus birth remained. Even when we did believe in Santa, we knew that Santa brought presents at Christmas to remind us of the greatest gift of all.

Zachary is in second grade this year, which is why I am remembering the moment that I knew that Santa was just Mom and Dad. This could be his last year of that magic and anticipation of Santa. It makes my heart a little sad to think about how quickly the time has gone by. My hope is that Zachary will still find Christmas magical even after he discovers the truth, as it was for me. We have continued the tradition of our daily advent from Thanksgiving through New Year at our home, and I know that both of my kids know why we celebrate Christmas. I pray that the miracle of Jesus birth would be the joy of their Christmas for the rest of their lives.

All by my self

2008-12-12T07:10:00.000-08:00

This coming week I am preparing for my family to come for a nice long visit. One of the things that I need to do is get to a Walmart to pickup various things. The nearest Walmarts are either in Utah, or Vegas each a good 3 hour drive. Joe and I were going to take a day trip to Utah to look at a car and go to Walmart while we were there to kill two birds with one stone. This plan has fallen through. Now, I am going to Vegas BY MY SELF! Joe is staying home with the kids while I am gone from Friday afternoon to Saturday evening. This may not seem like a big deal to some people, but what you have to understand is that this is the FIRST time since the kids were born almost 8 years ago that Joe is watching the kids over night without me there. I know that I will come home to a house that looks like a tornado hit, and the kids will probably have skipped a bath, but I'm confident that they will survive. And as for me, it's a short break that will be very busy, but I can't wait!

At home for the holidays

2008-11-29T08:04:00.000-08:00

This year, I was not able to make it to California to be with my family for Thanksgiving. I was upset about it, especially since this has been the longest stretch without seeing my family that I have ever had. I am happy to say, that Thanksgiving with just the Hornback 4 turned out to be a really nice day. I ended up making a full on Thanksgiving dinner, which I had debated doing for weeks before-hand. I've never made a turkey all by myself and I'm rather proud that it turned out so well.
It didn't snow like it was supposed to, but it was quite cold outside so we all cuddled up and watched a movie. Then we pulled out all of our Christmas decorations and the kids had a ball putting them up. I let them put everything wherever they wanted and just go crazy. It was so fun to watch them.
At dinner time we all went around the table and told what we were thankful for. It was a tearjerker moment for me to hear my children tell me that they were thankful that Jesus takes care of them and my husband say how thankful he was that we are all together after such a long, rough year.
I even managed to get a piece of black Friday down at the mercantile where I found a pair of sketchers for Katie on sale for only 15 bucks!
We won't be leaving Ely for Christmas either, but I am thankful that my parents are making the trip to spend Christmas with us. I can't wait!

Driller part 3

2008-11-24T18:10:00.000-08:00

I just wanted to let everyone know that Joe got the position to train as a driller. He is so excited! Thankyou for your prayers.

Pet peaves

2008-11-21T15:12:00.000-08:00

- little potatoes! You cannot buy a bag of potatoes these days with potatoes that are bigger than a babys fist. What am I supposed to do with those anyway? By the time you microwave them they are all shriveled up and uneatable.

-Pull up! Why can't the parents in the school pull around, pull ALL the way up in the line so that more cars can fit in the driveway. Is it really going to kill them to have to take a few extra steps.

-Utah news. Seriously, I'm not Mormon and I'm pretty sure there is news that is not related to the LDS church going on in the world. My local channels come from Utah and it drives me crazy!

-Big dogs. There are big dogs running all over this town and they FREAK me out! Keep your dogs fenced in people!!!

The future for the mine

2008-11-15T08:55:00.000-08:00

Here is the latest news on the mine copied from the Ely Times, from an article this week.

Robinson Mine eyes future as copper prices plummet
By Kent HarperEly Times Editor
Quadra Mining, Ltd., has $266 million cash on hand and no debt, giving it a “healthy balance-sheet” as the U.S. and global economy enters a downturn, reports the company's president and CEO, Paul Blythe.

This shot of mining activity near Ruth, taken in 1909, shows a Bucyrus-Erie railroad steam shovel loading ore cars. The work was in the Eureka Pit, which in 1916, was merged with the Liberty Pit, now called the Ruth Pit. Quadra Mining, Ltd., has planned to return to the Ruth Pit to work in 2010 as the Veteran Pit reserves are limited, but additional permitting will be required to remove water from the surrounding aquifer, a perennial problem.
“Clearly, the current metal price environment will have an impact on Quadra going forward,” Blythe said in a summary of the Vancouver, Canada-based company's third quarter 2008 financial report.Quadra owns the Robinson Mine near Ruth, and all of the company's revenues, to date, have been generated by the mine.Revenues from Robinson have declined in the third quarter from the same period last year, but the year-to-date revenues still are running above 2007 because of the high price of copper in the first two quarters.Robinson revenues are listed as $115,957,000 in the quarter that ended Sept. 30, 2008. That's down from the $134,587,000 in revenues during the third quarter of 2007.But for the first nine months of 2008, there was $494,559,000 in revenues, compared to $412,181,000 in the same period during 2007.The report notes the changes in revenues reflect market trends.“Since 2003, the growing demand for copper, particularly in China, coupled with an inability of the copper industry to increase supply due to a lack of immediate development projects, has resulted in decreased global inventories of copper,” the report explains. “The combination of high demand and low inventories, together with a weakening U.S. dollar, led to a substantial increase in the copper price through the first half of 2008. Recent events in the credit markets, together with impact of unwinding speculative long positions and fears of a global recession have led to downward pressure on the price of copper.”During the 12 months that ended Sept. 30, 2008, the spot price for copper has ranged from as high as $4.07 per pound, to as low as $2.85 per pound. But at the end of October this year, the closing spot price for copper had plummeted to $1.81 per pound.Another downward pressure on Quadra's earnings is the time lag in how the copper concentrates price is determined.Revenues from the sales of concentrates are recognized at the time of delivery, which usually is when the ship is loaded at the port of Vancouver, Wash., the report noted. But due to the timing of those shipments, the amount of product sold in any quarter may differ from the actual production at the mine. And final pricing isn't determined until a future date.As each quarter ends, price adjustments are made based on the “payable pounds” actually received by the customer.The payable pounds usually run 3-5 percent “lower than the metal volume actually delivered, and the amount of the deduction varies depending on concentrate grade,” the report added.“This sharp decline in the copper price is an unexpected outcome, and one that has led to full review of our plans for 2009 and beyond,” Blythe said. “Pending completion of this review, which is targeted for the end of November, we will not be in a position to provide production guidance.”Blythe noted that the mine, however, has met all of its current 2008 guidances.“At Robinson, copper and gold production were in line with expectations and we are on track to meet or exceed our 2008 guidance of 150 million pounds of copper and 115,000 ounces of gold. The cash cost per pound produced was $1.21 for the quarter as compared to $1.62 per pound for the same period in 2007 and $1.03 per pound of copper produced for the nine month period ending September 30th 2008.”The review underway may effect the production outlook for the mine.“The Company has been evaluating two options for the Robinson mine plan going forward - either moving to the Ruth pit in 2010 when the existing reserves in the Veteran pit have been mined, or expanding the Veteran pit for an additional phase of mining,” the report says.But recent hydrological work at the Ruth Pit has determined that additional permitting will be needed to remove excess water from the surrounding aquifer, which are above amounts already permitted under the mine's water use permits.Because the permitting process can be lengthy, as well as installing the needed, new equipment, the timing to resume operations in the Ruth Pit would be uncertain.“Furthermore, recent testwork indicates that the concentrate grades from ore mined in the early supergene area of Ruth may not meet the contained copper specification unless this ore is blended with material from another source. As a result, the Company is considering an additional phase of mining in the Veteran Pit, and revising the sequencing of mining operations, which would allow time to obtain the additional permits for the Ruth Pit, and also allow for an orderly blending plan to be executed,” the report continued.But expanding the Veteran Pit and the transition to the Ruth Pit will require a large capital investment, so the plan is being reviewed.The company's future profitability and cash position depends on the price of copper and gold. If the copper price remains low, because of the time lag between delivery and actual pricing, the company could be forced to repay customers as much as $50 million, while “copper put options,” based on the Oct. 31 price of $1.81 per pound would generate only $11 million. The price has dropped since to $1.62.Quadra has cut back its plans for the Sierra Gorda project in Chili and the Malmbjerg project in Greenland, basically putting both on hold until copper prices recover.But leaching activities at the Carlota project began in early October, and first production at that Arizona mine is expected to add some to Quadra's bottom line by the end of the year.Another bit of good-weather news in the economic storm, is the declining price of fuel.The “onsite costs” at the mine increased by $3.3 million in the third quarter because of supplies, which is mostly fuel. But the huge drop in diesel prices can only help in the fourth quarter and in 2009.

Driller part 2

2008-11-14T19:51:00.000-08:00

Joe got a call that he is to come in for an interview for the driller position/training. The interview is on the 19th at 10:00 and we are really praying that Joe gets it. The mine is not doing well and has cut all temporary positions, special projects, and over time for many of the employees, and has a hiring freeze. It is a miracle that they are going through with the drill training at all. There have been several jobs posted within the company, and then taken down a week or two later as copper shares continue to drop. There are rumors that there are only 18 days worth of Ore to mine, and other rumors that they are going to try to keep their doors open until at least June. I am praying that none of them are true and that the original 7 years of mining continues. There are limited opportunities in Ely and the closing of the mine would be devastating to not only our family, but all of the 500 employees.

A little bit retro

2008-11-08T18:40:00.000-08:00

When was the last time you saw metal slides, horsey swings, and merry-go-rounds? We have a retro park here in Ely that my kids and I adore, and I'm just hoping that OSHA never decides to shut it down. It is one of a kind and a favorite of ours.

I choose joy!

2008-11-03T16:45:00.000-08:00

My five year old daughter just told me that today was the greatest day of her life because she blew a bubble with her bubble gum. LOL! If only such little things in life brought me such joy! I heard a sermon, or read a devotional somewhere about choosing joy. It's harder as an adult to see the joy in the day to day grind, but sometimes you just have to decide, or choose joyfulness no matter what. Today I choose joy! I hope you do too!

Driller

2008-11-02T09:07:00.000-08:00

There is an opportunity at the mine for Joe to train to be a driller. He signed up for the training, but there are only a few spots. He is REALLY excited about it and is hoping to get it. Joe doesn't get excited about anything work related too often, so I am praying that he gets it and asking everyone else to do the same. Not only would it be something fun and different, it would be great on his resume. Drillers are hard to find, so it would be HUGE for him to get the chance to learn it while getting paid.

In case you're wondering what a driller does, they drill holes for the explosives to go into for when they are blasting pieces of the mountain to mine.

Please keep Joe in your prayers and specifically this drill training. Thanks!

Halloween

2008-11-01T12:47:00.000-07:00

I tried to e-mail these pics to my Family, but they wouldn't send, so I'm posting them on my blog. Halloween was fun for the kids. We went to a magic show and candy give out at the Elks Lodge, and then went trick-or-treating in the evening for about 45 min. (about as long as I could stand the cold) The cupcake pic, are the cupcakes I made for Zachs class party on Thursday. I am kind of proud of them! LOL!

8 years

2008-10-28T13:15:00.001-07:00

8 years ago today....

Fall

2008-10-25T13:17:00.000-07:00

I just finished raking and bagging 200 gallons of leaves from my front yard. I guess that I have never lived in a place where Fall, actually means FALL! It's like attack of the leaves around here. There are still a lot of leaves left on the tree, so I have a feeling I'll be raking a lot over the next several weeks. The kids sure are enjoying it though.

Teachers and guns

2008-10-21T10:18:00.000-07:00

I saw a political add last week that really upset me. It was a local Las Vegas candidate that was trying to allow teachers to carry guns at school. I had a short conversation about it with a friend of mine who supported this idea and her point was that kids are carrying guns to school, so teachers should also, for protection. I went on the Internet this morning to read more about this and found that about 95 percent of people are opposed to this idea. I also looked for articles where teachers had been shot by students. I only found one article from Florida. I for one do not understand this notion at all. The fact that kids are carrying guns to school, for me is just another reason why teachers should not. We don't need more guns at school, we need less. More guns only increases the odds of an unnecessary shooting. There are just too many scenarios running through my mind of a teachers gun hitting the wrong student, or the teachers gun getting into the hands of a student, or a teachers gun going off accidentally. I don't normally express my political views, or rant about these kind of topics, however, I am wondering what other people think about this idea, and why. At this point, I do know that if teachers were allowed to carry guns at my childrens school, I would pull them out immediately.

My vegas shopping spree

2008-10-20T07:57:00.001-07:00

7 new pairs of pants : $88.00
2 new jackets : $100.00
many new shirts and sweatshirts : $ 200.00

Knowing your kids will be nice and warm in the snow : Priceless

Thankful

2008-10-14T15:37:00.001-07:00

I am thankful for so many things. Here are a few.

My salvation
Joe, Zachary and Katie
My extended family
My dog Jazz
Heaters and Hot showers
Never going hungry
Pillows
My up bringing
Spaghetti dinners
Air 1
Memories
Robinson Nevada Mine
The most fantastic espresso machine in the world
Courtni and Kelly
Books
Mouse Trap and Sorry
Laughter
Overdraft limits
Made up songs by Katie and Zach
Christmas traditions
Disneyland
Pictures colored by Katie and Zach
Digital cameras
Willow Trees

Let it snow!

2008-10-11T08:50:00.000-07:00

This morning we woke up to our first blanket of snow! This is a first for me. It's beautiful, but boy is it cold!!!!

Yummy

2008-10-03T11:48:00.000-07:00

I was just sitting down to make a grocery list and I am very excited about the menu! This week we are expecting 3 - 12 inches of snow, so it's time to put away the bbq and break out the crockpot. Pot roast, clam chowder, meatloaf split pea soup and so much more! It makes my mouth water!

Where is the technology I need!

2008-09-25T10:16:00.001-07:00

One of the problems with living in Ely is that your options are limited on businesses. For instance, my bank does not exist in Ely and the closest branch is 215 miles away! Now, I need to deposit money TODAY, and I cannot unless I take a really long drive. You would think that with all of the technology these days, there would be some way to get the money in there with out having to leave the city, but sadly no. Even western union takes at least 2 business days to deposit the money into my account. Obviously I should have switched banks by now, but I just really don't want to! It's 2008 people! Why can't I get the money in there!!!! So, in short, I am off to Utah to go to the bank. :(

Church shopping in Ely

2008-09-22T20:00:00.000-07:00

For the last few weeks I have been looking for a church to attend in Ely. Here are my choices:
-Ely Baptist
No childrens program
about 10 people in attendance all above the age of 80

-Ely Methodist
No childrens program
about 10 people in attendance all above the age of 80

-Ely Presbyterian
No childrens program
about 10 people in attendance all above the age of 80

-Ely Lutheran
No childrens program
about 10 people in attendance all above the age of 80

My search is not looking great!
I am beginning to wonder and pray about how churches are planted in communities. I e-mailed my pastor from Vegas for suggestions and prayer a few days ago and am hoping to get some direction from him. There are plenty of people in Ely to start something where young families can get connected to God and fellow Christians. I believe that Ely is in desperate need of this. I am in desperate need of this! I just have NO clue where to start or where to turn other than prayer. I am feeling frustrated and sad.

staying home

2008-09-21T08:19:00.000-07:00

I was watching Americas Got Talent the other night and one of the contestants was being interviewed about her life. She was a mom and she said that she and her kids had sacrificed a lot over the years as they had struggled financially, but they had never had to sacrifice her, because she was always there. This little statement brought tears to my eyes, because that is how I feel as a stay at home mom. Since I do not work and money is usually tight my kids go without many things. But to me, in the end it is worth it because I am always there. There is no better substitute, no better pair of expensive shoes, no better designer jeans or latest toy than the time that I get to be with my kids. The satisfaction that some hot shot caraer could bring me would be nothing to the satisfaction of knowing that my kids are being raised by me rather than daycare. I don't condemn working moms at all, but for me, I am thankful that I have been able to be at home and just be a mom.

Life with out a car

2008-09-19T20:01:00.000-07:00

******** NOTE *********
This blog and the one that follow were written a few months ago, but due to a lack of internet access, are just being posted.

For the last few weeks and for the next month or so, I am without a car. Fortunately, I have a bike! I am also fortunate that Katie and Zachary both know how to ride their bikes like little experts. You can see us riding around Ely daily, my bike baskets filled with groceries as I have to do my shopping a day at a time with no way to carry more. We live only 2 blocks from the school and so when school starts it will not be a challenge to get there. We ride to the library and to the soda fountain shop and to the park. Katie and Zachary have met the challenge of the big hill from town, back home and it has become a breeze for them. And I am sure that I will finally loose that 10 pounds that I have been trying to loose for the last 6 years! Really, this is just another great adventure in the life of a Hornback!

Ely

2008-09-19T19:58:00.000-07:00

I arrived in Ely in late June for the first time. This place is not even what I could have begun to imagine. I had this picture in my head of this cute little town with little boutiques on main street and a big clock tower in the center of town over city hall. In my head I saw planters filled with flowers and everyone waving a friendly hello as you passed by.
I was in for quite a shock as I roamed the town my first few days. The best way that I can describe Ely is (excuse my French) shit hole!!!! Everything is run down and dirty. The neighborhoods are filled with homes displaying old couches on the side of the yard and trash stacked up every where. The famous and Historic Hotel Nevada has to be the dirtiest place that I have ever stayed and this is what Ely claims as one of the big attractions. Yes, it was the tallest building in 1912, and yes it has history, but nobody has given it much TLC since it’s debut.
As for the people, I’m sad to say that in the 2 months that I have been here now, I have come to realize that this town is filled with scandal and a lack of family values. Everyone has slept with everyone and marriage vows and commitment seem to matter little.
Outside of town, Ely does have a few redeeming qualities. Cave lake is only about 20 minutes away, and although too small for boating, is beautiful. There is camping and fishing and, an adventure I have not partaken in quite yet, crawdading, which I have heard is very fun. There is also the McGill swimming hole, which although slightly run down and dirty along with everything else, is charming in it’s own way. It is exactly what I said, a swimming hole. Literally a big hole filled with water, two water slides and a diving board. You can buy nets at the snack shack and catch guppies and swim for hours. The kids really enjoy it there.
I am thankful that I have my own little bit of normalcy here in the house that we found to rent. After a few days of nothing to rent but homes that were in my view unlivable, God did provide us with a cute little house, with a nice yard that is very clean! I’m telling you that in this town, it was a miracle of God that we found it at all! Although I have not been thrilled with being here so far, I just came across a card that my mom had given my sister when she moved a long time ago. It was stuck in a book that my sister had passed on the me to read. I pulled it out and this is what it said:
Dear Kim,
One of the things that Jule said that was important when she got moved to Merced (a place she hates) was "bloom where you’re planted" In other words, try to stay focused on the good and learn what you can do to find your niche. That may take growth to try new things until you find what’s just right, but don’t sit and stew or think about what you wish.
I’ll be praying God, our gardener, makes your "life garden" a beautiful one.
I love you,
Mom"

Good neighbors

2008-06-22T21:00:00.000-07:00

Since I have been staying in Upland for the past 6 months, I have really come to enjoy the neighborhood that we are in. Everyday after school and now all day since summer has begun, all of the kids in this neighborhood go in their front yards and play together, or swim in one an others pools. I have lived in so many neighborhoods in my adult life and have never had the experience with neighbors that I am having now. The boys all play baseball in the front yard or throw a Frisbee or have races on their bikes. The girls too, join in on the racing, or sit in the avocado tree in my parents front yard and play dolls, or house or color. One of the parents, including myself pulls out the slip n slide and all of the kids spend the afternoon having a ball. The neighbors with pools, share and all of the kids swim until they can't swim anymore. Even the parents chit chat. We all sit out front and watch our kids and exchange pleasantries. We all know each others names and we all take turns having the kids in our yards. It's been such a nice change. We have lived in places where no one ever talks to anyone or waves or smiles. Kids don't play outside and you would never feel comfortable letting your kids spend time in a neighbors house because you just don't know them. Here, kids are in and out and all around and I simply love it. It's how all of the world should be!

Denali hikers rescued!

2008-06-18T22:26:00.000-07:00

Tears came to my eyes today as I watched the anchorage news. Erica Nelson and her friend were rescued today! I got to see her mom, Ellane from my small group giving her daughter a hug, safe and sound with no injuries. Thanks for all of your prayers. I know it meant a lot to the Nelson family.

PLEASE PRAY

2008-06-17T22:12:00.000-07:00

I was contacted today regarding a friend of mine from my small group in Las Vegas. One of the ladies in our group, Ellane Nelson, has a daughter who has gone missing on a hike in Alaska. This has been on local Las Vegas news and on the national news, so some of you may have seen the story. Ellanes daughters name is Erica Nelson. Please keep Ellane and Erica and the rest of the family in your prayers to bring Erica home safely.

Here is the link to the story which includes a picture of Erica.
http://www.adn.com/outdoors/story/438758.html

So. Cal

2008-06-14T07:07:00.000-07:00

I took my kids to Newport Beach yesterday. The weather was perfect and the water was pretty warm too. It was just beautiful. Beaches in So.Cal are one of the things that make me wish that I could live here. Unfortunately, the average price of a home is somewhere around 600,000 and rent is 2500 a month or more. Blast! I don't think we'll ever get to live down here!

Just a reminder of what America faces

2008-06-12T20:47:00.001-07:00

This is 9 minutes long but a good reminder of what America faces.

If you know someone who doesn't understand why we have 180,000 brave U.S. troops honorably serving in Iraq & Afghanistan, then please share this video with them: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lKZqqSI9-s

We are approaching the 7-year anniversary of the 9/11 terrorist attacks, and since then Islamic jihadists have not been able to inflict another terrorist attack on American soil. And U.S. troops deserve a lot of praise for this fact. Our troops have al-Qaeda broken into pieces, and their affiliated terrorist groups largely decimated. This is the direct result of our troops' missions in Iraq & Afghanistan, and around the world (in conjunction with the dilligent work of law enforcement and intelligence agencies).

So please realize that while you are sitting at your chair reading this, a young man or woman is over in Iraq or Afghanistan, enduring temperatures over 115 degrees, and fighting violent radical jihadists who want to see you and I dead, and our society and values destroyed.

We should say thank you to our troops. In fact, we cannot begin to thank them enough.

It's funny because its true

2008-06-06T08:40:00.000-07:00

This is for anyone who has lived in or near L.A. It made me laugh, so I'm passing it on to you! Enjoy.

You must first learn to pronounce the city name L.A. ; it is "L" "A" and not "la" like in the Sound of Music.

All freeways are referred to as "The 405" or "The 10" regardless of it being referred to as I-10 in other states.The morning rush hour is from 5:00 a.m. to noon. The evening rush hour is from noon to 7:00 p.m. and Friday's rush hour starts on Thursday, just after noon unless it is a three day weekend and then it begins sometime Wednesday evening.

The minimum acceptable speed on most freeways is 85 mph. except on the 91, the 105 or the 110, where your speed is expected to match the highway number. Anything less is considered "Wussy."

Forget the traffic rules you learned elsewhere, L.A. has its own version of traffic rules. For example, cars/trucks with the loudest muffler go first at a four-way stop; the trucks with the biggest tires go second. However, in Malibu , SUV-driving, cell-phone-talking moms ALWAYS have the right of way. If you are in the left lane and only driving 70 in a 55 - 65 mph zone, you are considered a road hazard and will be "flipped-off" accordingly. If you return the flip, you will be shot. If you actually stop at a yellow light you will be rear ended, cussed out, and probably shot. Never honk at anyone. EVER. Seriously, it's another offense that can get you shot.

Road construction is permanent and continuous in all of L.A. and Orange counties. Detour barrels are moved around for your entertainment pleasure during the middle of the night to make the next day's driving a bit more exciting. Map Quest does not work here - none of the roads are where they say they are or go where they say they go, and the freeway off and on ramps are moved each night.

If someone actually has their turn signal on, wave them to the shoulder immediately to let them know it has been "accidentally activated."Do not try to estimate travel time-- just leave Monday afternoon for Tuesday appointments, by noon Thursday for Friday and right after church on Sunday for anything on a Monday morning.

And finally, why is the L.A. Freeway called "the 405"? Because no matter where or when you are traveling on it, it takes 4 or 5 hours to reach your final destination from wherever you are. Make sure you have a small ice chest filled with snacks and drinks. L.A. is a desert and getting stuck on the 405 can result in dehydration or possible starvation if you are not prepared.

Timing part 2

2008-06-03T07:02:00.000-07:00

God did miraculously provide for Joe to go to Kingman yesterday. In fact the whole family went! We loaded Zach and Katie in the car and drove the 4 hours to Kingman. Joe went to the interview and it went well, so we'll see if they give him a call. After the interview we went over to Needles and found our own private beach and spent the rest of the day in the river. It was really fun. On our way back, Joe had me laughing so hard almost the whole way home. I couldn't hardly see the road! We had such a fun family day out and who knows where this little trip will lead us. God is good.

Timing

2008-05-30T08:20:00.000-07:00

Anyone who knows me, knows my current situation. Joe is in Ely working and I have been staying with my parents while Zachary finishes school. We are supposed to be joining Joe in Ely sometime in mid to late June.

Last night we got an e-mail from another mine that Joe had applied to a while back, asking him to come for an interview on Monday. This mine is in Kingman, AZ.

There are a few problems with this. First of all, this is Joes first week off in 2 months, and he is supposed to drive home today. Katie especially, but all of us, can not wait another second to see him. We miss him like crazy. The second problem is that with gas prices being what they are, it would cost a fortune to get there and back and again, if you know us at all, we are BROKE!!!!!

The thing is, that I have learned with Joe, that it's always a good idea to take risks. Most of the time for us, when we do, they turn out to be better than what we had before. We are also having such a hard time finding a place to live in Ely, and chances are good that when we get there, we could all end up living in a hotel room together.

When I got this e-mail last night I wanted to laugh and cry at the same time. There are so many things that would be better about living in Kingman. It's closer to my family and to major cities. It has ALWAYS been Joes dream to live near the river. And it doesn't snow there. I hate snow. But honestly, we need him to come home now for a visit, not be in Kingman on an interview. And I just don't know how we can pull off the cost to get him there. Sometimes it feels like God is just messing with us! I just told God, if you want Joe to go to this interview, then you have to figure out how to get him there, because I've got nothing! And if He does want Joe to go, then I know He will get him there.

If you are reading this, please PRAY! Thanks.

Joining the cause against drunk driving

2008-05-28T10:01:00.001-07:00

Please don't drink and drive.
http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=4564276
Click on the link

Random stuff

2008-05-27T22:36:00.000-07:00

So I was watching Beauty and the Geek tonight, and one of the girls was talking about her fool proof diet. I loved it! She just simply put her scale in front of her refrigerator and would step on it before opening the door. Her weight would determine what she ate. I have no need for a diet right now, but next time I do, I'm totally doing that!

I went to my sons back to school night last week. Everyone in the class wrote something they thought was special about every classmate. The teacher made a book for each child with every ones thoughts about why that person was special. No joke, about 6 of the girls wrote, Zachary is special because he is handsome. LOL! It was the cutest thing ever!

Katie is so excited about Joe coming home on Friday. She told me that we had to make daddys favorite dinner for him. She said that he would want mashed potatoes, meat and salad.

Joe is in fact coming home on Friday and I can't wait! It has been almost 2 months since his last visit. This last week has been really tough. I just had melt down after melt down and I am so thankful that he will be here to rescue me on Friday and staying 6 whole days. After he leaves, it will only be about 2 more weeks until we finally join him in Ely.

Missing Las Vegas

2008-05-19T10:21:00.000-07:00

One of my favorite things about living in Las Vegas were the amazing parks! The kids and I used to go almost everyday and spend 3 or 4 hours. Here are a few of my favorites!

A quick shout out, whoop, whoop!

2008-05-13T19:00:00.000-07:00

I just wanted to give a little shout out to the ladies from my small group back in Vegas! I have been gone for nearly 6 months and these ladies continue to care about me and love me. They keep in touch via e-mail, pray for me and my family, send me cards, call me and even sent me the latest study so that I could keep up. These are some of the most wonderful women I know. Thanks Arleen, Vicky Charleen, Dawnna, and yvonne. I love you guys!

An unfortunate veiw

2008-05-12T10:33:00.000-07:00

I thought long and hard about weather or not I should write this blog. I want to start off by saying that I am in no way trying to call anybody out, or implying that I know anybodies intentions. I am not putting words into anybodies mouth or trying to say that I know what a particular person meant when they made a certain statement. This blog is simply about understanding where others including my husband are coming from.

I recently read a blog from a friend of mine whom I have great respect for. He is a pastor and has been in ministry a long time. The blog was simply a little blurb about a day in his life where he ran into a bunch of people whom I'm assuming are members of his congregation. At the end of the blog he made a statement that since he had run into these people outside of church, some of his "duties" for the week were taken care of.

Like I said previously, I don't know what exactly he meant, and I am not putting words into his mouth. However, as I was reading it, it dawned on me what my husband Joe has felt and expressed to me many times about people in ministry and Christians in general. Joe has always shied away, not from God, but from religion and always says that he is hard pressed to find people who he feels are genuine, or not fake or people he feels truly care about him. I could hear his voice in my head as I read this statement saying, "see Erin, it's his job to care about people, so he makes the rounds like he's supposed to." I am constantly defending "Christians" and saying that of course there are people who are hypocrites in the church, but not everyone is that way and sometimes you just have to have a little bit of faith in people. I for one have found more Christians than not that have a real love for one another. I think that it is important though that people do not have ministry burnout because that is when it becomes just a job, as opposed to genuine caring and concern for others, their lives, and their emotional needs. It's unfortunate when these burnouts give substance to someone who is already a skeptic. I pray for Joe everyday that he may find whatever it is that he is looking for in Godly people. I do understand why he may feel the way that he feels, and I pray that those who are involved in ministry, including myself would remember why exactly they are doing what they are doing.

Yummy

2008-05-10T08:13:00.000-07:00

My dad is making apple pancakes with apple syrup this morning. This was a childhood favorite, and I can't wait to eat them!!! YUM!

Humbled

2008-05-08T10:13:00.000-07:00

Today I am thankful that God has told me no. It is such a great reminder that God knows more than me! I am humbled today by Gods hand in every situation in my life and that no matter what I might think the best plans for my life are, how much greater does God know. I want to be like David in 1Chr 17:16-20; 22:7-12. David responded to Gods plans with humility and gave glory to God when things did not turn out the way he thought that they would. I am blessed to have his example to follow. Ps 4:3 reminds me that the Lord will hear when I call him, and PS 10:1 reminds me that even when God seems far away to KEEP PRAYING! I may not get the answer that I want, but God knows what He is doing and it is my job to continue in prayer and seek Gods will and lift up my hands in prayer and praise Him because of His unfailing Love for me.

Birthday Party

2008-05-05T08:09:00.000-07:00

Katie had 8 kids at her party. I sent them home on a sugar high after they ate a bunch of candy from the pinata, had a root beer relay, made their own ice cream sundaes, and had cake! I hope the parents don't hate me too much! I think the kids really had a great time though, and the party was a really great success. It was such a fun day. Lesson learned however: 4 litters of root beer is too much for 8 kids in a root beer relay!

Katie

2008-05-02T12:50:00.000-07:00

5 years ago today I was holding my beautiful baby girl, Katelyn Kimberly. She was 7 pounds, 9oz and 19 inches long and absolutely gorgeous! Today she is turning 5 and she has grown up to be such a fun, joyful, intelligent big girl! Katies favorite thing to do is crafts and painting. You won't find her playing with dolls, she would rather be outside on her bike. Happy Birthday Katie!!!!!

Butterflies part 2

2008-04-30T22:16:00.000-07:00

We got to let our butterflies go today. It was such a fun experience. Here are some pics. Enjoy!

Whirl wind

2008-04-30T09:06:00.000-07:00

Today I am 29 and I am thinking about the last 10 years of my life. It has truly been a whirl wind. 10 years ago, I met Joe while I was still in college. We were engaged on my 21st birthday and married 6 months later. I had Zachary and bought my first house when I was 23. A year later, we sold our house and bought our second home in Hesperia. Shortly afterward, Katie came along. We have moved so many times between then and now and lived all along the 15 freeway between San Diego and Las Vegas! Now, I am in my last year of my 20's with a 5 year old(on Friday!) and a 6 year old. Although I would not trade the last 10 years for anything, I am hoping that my 30's move at a slower pace and the bumps in the road are fewer.

Good news

2008-04-28T20:52:00.000-07:00

There was an article in the Ely times last week that I forgot to share. It is very good news for our family. Take some time to click on the link and check it out! The article is about the mine that Joe is working for.
The Ely Times - elynews.com :: News: Mine to operate for at least seven more years

Joes Job

2008-04-24T20:13:00.000-07:00

Joe has been working for a copper mine in Ely, Nevada since February under a temp agency during the 3 month probationary period. He got his permanent hire date today and a raise so I am very excited. It is all working out and coming together. Now to find a place to stay up there...

Butterflies

2008-04-21T11:52:00.001-07:00

I ordered a butterfly sanctuary for my daughter Katie as a little bit of home science since she is not currently in preschool. Our caterpillars arrived a couple of weeks ago and we watched them eat and grow and grow. This weekend they shed their skin to reveal their beautiful chrysalis. They are specked with gold and absolutely gorgeous. The whole thing is an amazing process and I myself spent hours staring into the little container. To me it's just another example of how amazing our God is. I can't wait to see them after they have morphed into butterflies and observe them for a few days before we let them go.

Bipolar disorder

2008-04-19T22:21:00.000-07:00

Soon after I was married it became quite clear to me that my husband was a very angry and depressed person. It took him the first 5 years of our marriage to admit that he may have a problem, and then get him to the doctor. He was prescribed Zoloft for the depression and anger by his PCP and he had an almost immediate turn around in behavior. It was like a whole new Joe and I couldn't be happier. Unfortunately, lately, he seems to be back to his old self even though he is taking the maximum amount of medication aloud.

After his last episode, a dramatic mood swing from out of the blue, I took some advise and looked up Bipolar disorder. From what I read, I believe that Joe has this disorder. The Zoloft is not enough on it's own to treat the disorder and he needs to go back to the doctor. I am hoping that he will go without a fight and that it will not take 5 years like it did the last time.

One of the statistics I read about people that have this disorder is that the divorce rate is very high. Joe and I have been through a lot over the years and we have been able to survive somehow. I am thankful that I have a personal relationship with Jesus and that no matter what, I can turn to him. I am thankful for the Bible that guides me, that he provides every answer that I need, including the letters from Paul to the Corinthians that I refer to every time I just want to run! I am thankful for the Psalmist, and for their constant reminders of Gods love, mercy, and hope and at the same time reassured me that it was O.K. to lament and give glory and praise to God. I am thankful for stories of people like David who God did great things through even though he was a nobody, and women like Esther. I am thankful for my small group made up all of women whom are married, but spiritually single and hold each other up.

I refuse to be a statistic just because of this hurdle. I know that we can get through this and that God calls me to ,even when I just want to give up. I am thankful that God does not give me anything that I cannot handle and I pray that God will use me, a nobody, for something great one day, even if it just to share my struggles with someone else that may be dealing with the same thing.

The invisible mom

2008-04-08T08:37:00.000-07:00

I got an email today with a wonderful story and I just wanted to share it with any other moms out there. I do not know who the author is, but here it is:

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lackof response, the way one of the kids will walk intothe room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken tothe store. Inside I'm thinking,'Can't you see I'm on the phone?' Obviously not; noone can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, orsweeping the floor, or even standing onmy head in the corner, because no one can see me atall. I'm invisible; 'The Invisible Mom.'Some days I am only a pair of hands, nothing more: Canyou fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this?Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even ahuman being. I'm a clock to ask, 'What time is it?'I'm a satellite guide to answer, 'What number is theDisney Channel?' I'm a car to order,'Right around 5:30, please.'I was certain that these were the hands that once heldbooks and the eyes that studied history and the mindthat graduated summa cum laude -but now they had disappeared into the peanut butter,never to be seen again. She's going, she's going, andshe's gone!One night, a group of us were having dinner,celebrating the return of a friend from England.Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, andshe was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in.I was sitting there, looking around at the others allput together so well. It was hard not to compare andfeel sorry for myself as I looked down at myout-of-style dress; it was theonly thing I could find that was clean. My unwashedhair was pulled up in a hair clip and I was afraid Icould actually smell peanut butter init. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Janice turnedto me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, 'Ibrought you this.' It was a book on the greatcathedrals of Europe. I wasn't exactlysure why she'd given it to me until I read herinscription:'To Charlotte,with admiration for the greatness ofwhat you are building when no one sees.'In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - thebook. And I would discover what would become for me,four life-changing truths, after which I could patternmy work: No one can say who built the great cathedrals- we have no record of their names. These buildersgave their whole lives for a work they would never seefinished. They made great sacrifices and expected nocredit. Thepassion of their building was fueled by their faiththat the eyes of God saw everything.A legendary story in the book told of a rich man whocame to visit the cathedral while it was being built,and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the insideof a beam. He was puzzledand asked the man, 'Why are you spending so much timecarving that bird into a beam that will be covered bythe roof? No one will ever see it.' And the workmanreplied, 'Because God sees.'I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall intoplace. It was almost as if I heard God whispering tome, 'I see you, Charlotte. I seethe sacrifices you make every day, even when no onearound you does. No act of kindness you've done, nosequin you've sewn on, no cupcakeyou've baked, is too small for me to notice and smileover. You are building a great cathedral, but youcan't see right now what it will become.'At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction.But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It isthe cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness.It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. Ikeep the right perspective when I see myself as agreat builder. As one of the people who show up at ajob that they will never see finished, to work onsomething that their name will never be on. The writerof the book went so far as to say that no cathedralscould ever be built in our lifetime because there areso few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.When I really think about it, I don't want my son totell the friend he's bringing home from college forThanksgiving, 'My Mom gets up at 4 in the morning andbakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkeyfor three hours and presses all the linens for thetable.' That would mean I'd built a shrine or amonument to myself. I just want him to want to comehome. And then, if there is anything more to say tohis friend, to add, 'you're gonna love it there.'As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. Wecannot be seen if we're doing it right. And one day,it is very possible that the world will marvel, notonly at what we have built, but at the beauty that hasbeen added to the world by the sacrifices of invisiblewomen. Great Job, MOM!

LOL

2008-04-05T21:02:00.001-07:00

So my husband likes a certain brand of tooth brush because it is a little bigger than the normal size toothbrush. They stopped carrying it about a year ago and it really actually upset him. I was just wandering through Walgreens and came across the biggest toothbrush I have ever seen. The thing looks like it was made for a giant. I was literally laughing out load in the store when I saw it so hard that I had tears rolling down my face. I bought it as a joke and showed it to Joe laughing hysterically. He loves it! He's going to use it as his new toothbrush. I am going to add a picture, but I don't think a photo will do it justice. It was a good laugh for me though.

Homecoming

2008-04-04T18:27:00.000-07:00

Joe is home for the next 6 days! Yeah. Man I missed him.

running out of ideas!!!

2008-04-03T13:11:00.000-07:00

This year I was forced to pull my daughter out of preschool because I simply couldn't afford it anymore. She has been at home with me and I have been doing our own version of preschool here at the house. It seems like the time when we are focused on learning goes by much to quickly. We do an art project at least once a day, go to the library and the park a few times a week, but I still feel like she is watching TV a lot. She also wants me to play ALL the time. I don't mind playing, but I just can't do it 24/7. I know that she is bored at home, but I am running out of ideas. I am only in California for a short time and haven't taken the time to find a church or a playgroup and I think that has added to the problem significantly. It is just Katie and mommy from 7:30 to 2:30 everyday without any other contact, but because we are leaving so soon, the effort to find friends for her and myself seems like a waste. I just wish I could come up with a few more FREE activities because we are both going CRAZY here!!!! I am looking forward to our butterfly project coming up next week. We ordered caterpillars and will get to feed them, watch them make cocoons and turn into butterflies. That will be fun for both of us and a great learning experience too.

STILL NOT SMOKING!! YEAH!!

2008-04-01T12:51:00.000-07:00

Quiting smoking sucks!!!!!!

mysterious blessings

2008-03-31T08:24:00.000-07:00

This year, as I finally get to my taxes, I am reminded of what a difficult year this has been. As the housing market took such a crash, the construction industry also did. My husband runs heavy equipment for a living and jobs have been few and far between. Joe has never had trouble finding work, but this year was the first time that there was truly nothing happening and time and time again he was sent out on a job that lasted a week or two and then ended. We have struggled to get through the year barely scraping by.

Somehow we did manage to survive our financial hardship and as I reflect I am amazed to realize the blessing that God gave us during the year. Joe spent so much time at home while he was unemployed. He really had a chance to spend quality time with his kids and really enjoy them. He and I had so much time to talk and work on things that have needed mending for a long time. We are closer than we have ever been during our 7 year marriage. I don't know many dads that get to spend the kind of time with their kids that Joe got to spend this year. It truly was a blessing to have him home so much. It's funny the way that God works things out sometimes. Prayers are answered in mysterious and unexpected ways. Sometimes, you don't realize that God has given you this amazing blessing until after the fact, but when you do, you are humbled and awed.

Friendship

2008-03-25T13:47:00.000-07:00

Over the past several years I have been praying diligently for God to bring me a good friend. I have never had very good luck with friends and there are very few people that I actually consider true friends. I have always thought of myself as an exceptionally good friend to others and haven't quite figured out why I cannot find someone to truly rely on myself. To me, a friend is someone who is loyal beyond measure. Someone who would do anything to help a friend in need. Someone who always has the time to talk, and someone who listens with an empathetic ear.

I was recently angry at someone that I thought was a real friend, but soon learned was using me. It is unfortunate, because I really did care about her and thought of her as my closest friend for a long time. I felt burned and disappointed. As I grew bitter toward her, I prayed yet again for God to bring me a real friend and not someone like the last person whom I only thought was my friend. Suddenly, I felt God tugging on my heart, telling me that He felt the same way about our friendship that I felt about my last one. God is the friend that I imagine that I am to others, but I am the friend to Him that I despise. I do not listen. I do not spend time with Him as often as I should. I often come to Him with requests, leaving that as the extent to my daily prayer.

How can I expect God to answer this prayer I have had for a friend, when I am treating Him the exact way that I do not want to be treated. I am thankful that God always finds a way to remind me that He is there, that He wants to spend time with me and that He desires that I find time for Him. My new prayer will be that I am continually reminded of the amazing friendship that I already have in Jesus and that I can be the friend to Him that, I expect my friends to be to me.

A rock and a hard place

2008-03-18T09:11:00.000-07:00

I have heard so many discussions over the years about Public school vs. Private school or homeschooling. I never saw the issue with public schools since I made it through the system without any problems. My son Zachary is in 1st grade this year and I am beginning to see a problem with the public school. I feel like he is being pushed so hard to meet "the standards" that he is loosing a lot of his childhood. I don't have a problem with homework, but the amount that is sent home each week is appalling. He is only 6 years old and instead of spending the majority of his time outside playing after school, he is sitting inside doing homework.

I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I cannot afford the luxury of a private school and I do not feel qualified to home school since I have no background in education. If I allow him to spend less time on his school work, I am afraid that he will not meet the standards, but if I do not allow him to rush through his work, then I am afraid that I am not giving him the precious time he has left to just be a kid. It is exciting to watch Zachary reading so well and learning so much, but I really feel that they are pushing kids today far beyond what is necessary. Being a child is supposed to be the time of your life. A time without pressure or anxiety. A time to be carefree. We all know that once you grow up, feeling like this is usually just a memory, but will my children ever have a memory without pressure with the way things are in the current school system. How can I as a parent, make sure that they do, and at the same time, keep them on track with the standards? I do not want my son to miss out on being a kid.

Small town

2008-03-16T08:36:00.000-07:00

My husband took a job in Ely, NV last month. My son Zachary is finishing the school year in California before we join my husband in Ely. I am especially excited about moving to Ely because this will be the first time I have ever lived in a small town. I love for Joe to mail me a copy of the Ely times each week so that I can dream of this small town life that I am not yet accustomed to. The Times only comes out on Wednesdays and it is only a few pages. Most of the news is devoted to what Elys small number of students (elementary through high school) are accomplishing. An entire page lists the churches and their service times. These are people who really care about each other.
Last week my husband asked me to call and find out if a particular hotel had weekly rates because he is currently staying in hotels until the rest of the family comes up. I called the hotel and an old man answered the phone. I asked him about the rates and he told me that they did have weekly rates, but he just didn't have any rooms at the moment. I told him that my husband worked at the mine up there and that I would call back another day to see if they had rooms because He needed a place to stay. The man quickly replied, "Well in that case I have a lot of rooms! I only rent to truckers and miners! Tell your husband to come in and I'll make him a great deal." I wanted to laugh out load because he was just so cute. This man is devoted to his small town life and does not want anything else seeping in and ruining it. "How late can he come in tonight to check in?" I asked. "Well ma'am, I usually go to bed at 8:30." Wow, what a difference from Las Vegas (my last home) where everything is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
I can't wait for the feeling of quiet, real friendship, caring people, and a slower paced life. Although my husband thinks I will hate the fact that the nearest Target or Walmart are over 200 miles away, I'm looking forward to shopping at the local mercantile, taking my kids to the soda shop, and going to see the one movie they play at the small theater every month. Slowing down a bit sounds just fine to me. If you would like to check out what Ely is all about, visit www.elytimes.com You'll be fascinated!

Home

2008-03-13T09:17:00.000-07:00

In the past 8 years I have moved 12 times. I have no military affiliation as some may assume. My moves, my families moves are just life for us. In the first few years of my marriage, I despised these moves as I had grown up living in the same house and the same city my whole life. Now, as I prepare for my 13th move I am content because I have learned over the years that home is wherever my family is. This apiffany struck me a few years ago when I found myself living in a 32 foot motor home with my husband, my 3 year old son and my 16 month old daughter. The motor home was in a city called Hemet and we were there during the summer when temperatures reached at least 110 degrees daily. The motor home was impossible to keep cool during the hottest parts of the day and it was much cooler to sit outside in the shade. I was feeling so sorry for myself one afternoon when the toilet we had backed up and the whole cramped area smelled of rotten eggs. It must have been 120 degrees out that day and I just sat outside and cried while my kids ran around and played as usual. It was then, watching them, that I knew even though I felt homeless, my kids did not. They had their mommy and daddy there with them, a roof over their heads, food to eat and toys to play with. As I watched the joy in them, despite our living conditions, that is when I realized that it does not matter if I live in a mansion or a motor home. Without my family, I would be truly homeless, no matter where I was, but as long as we are together, I am home.